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Growing up, we are told to put kindness at the forefront, practice empathy, to share, to not be selfish.
selfish, /ˈsɛlfɪʃ/
adjective
(of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.
But if we all do is give, what is left for us when the tank is empty? What is the point of giving and giving, to the point that there is nothing of yourself left. Take a look at the mirror and look deep within yourself. Have you given so much that you are struggling to hang on? Do you wish you have a little bit more of yourself left so that you can start living life for yourself?
If the answer to any of the above is yes, then please, it is okay to be a little selfish.
Rather than subscribe to the tradition understanding of being selfish (because the lines can be so blurry some time), it is more about taking care of one’s needs first so that we can offer our best self to the others. If you are an older millennial like I am, more likely than not, you are part of the sandwich generation that has to juggle the care of older folks in your family and also the children. As asians, it is part of our culture (and duty) to care for our parents, and I’d speak for most of us that we are more than happy to do so. But, when the hospital trips and medical appointments start to increase in frequency, our stress level rises and our plates start to overflow.
Selfish is often synonymous with self-centredness. What if the priority is self-love instead?
